The Curse of double standards (Part 3): 'Polygamy' vs. 'Promiscuity'
Tuesday, January 31, 2017
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My visual expression of "Really???"... in my deepest Igbo-girl
accent
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My daily schedule is crazy as a bat.
I have a full-time Law
career, which I (generally) revel in. My 'relaxing'/sleep hours is what I utilise to
blog. Expectedly, mainstream entertainment for me has become near-extinct.
(Yada-yada ... whine-whine. Who send you??)
So I find myself scheduling
days in between months to take a break from it all, and binge on Grey's Anatomy
and GoT (I can’t wait for April!). In the meantime... I get my little ‘doses’
of entertainment from Facebook.
And Zuckerville did not disappoint me last week.
A Facebook acquaintance -
Nkechi Bianze - literally sparked a mini-revolution, via a post on her wall, (basically) re-enacting in writing Beyonce's
"If I were a boy" video:
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Credits:
Nkechi Bianze's Facebook wall.
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Her post spun off other
similar tongue-in-cheek posts. Like this one...
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Credits:
Kate Halim’s Facebook wall.
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And this one...
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Credits:
Kate Halim’s Facebook wall.
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Even yours truly joined in
the party:
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Credits:
Yours truly's Facebook wall.
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And e-Wars were fought!
One fact was clear though,
by the end of the week: a lot of folks had either slept through literature
class, or opted for Geography, thus missing the complete irony in and
cheekiness of all the posts. Which would explain the comments 'advising' women
to "change their evil ways".
(Udonminit?? Kikikiki!!)
Asides the rib-cracking
humour of the posts (that is… if you get it) and their accompanying comments
however, do we see the plain nonsense these posts ridicule??
How we naturally make
excuses for the male folk, blaming a man's roving eye on biology, nature,
religion, culture.... anything other than the human being in question. How we
are wont to make him out as the innocent victim, 'caught' and 'carried' by
supernatural-sirens, hence hanging the noose on the (infamous) "other
woman".
Citing our religious and
cultural defences as to why women should be understanding of his un-helpable
state. "Men are polygamous animals" we argue. His 'itch' is beyond
his control. The woman should work harder to keep him. And if all reason
fails... simply 'War-Room' your home.
The End.
Ok... flip the coin. See?
How silly it sounds??
Oh no! If a woman did that,
she is promiscuous.
Really??
(*rolls eyes*)
My point is not in any way
to promote unfaithfulness. I believe in commitment, and have learnt that love
is not just a feeling. It requires serious sacrifices. Similar to seeing okro soup being served with, ‘roundabout’ and shaki, but reigning in your 'long-throat', remembering that your
favoured Abacha waits for you at
home.
(Oh Abacha! How I love
thee!!)
The commitment however
should be expected of both sexes equally. If 'looking outside' by one gender
would be termed promiscuous, same should go for the other. After all, no gender
was born with any tag tied to their ankle at birth.
Both parties in a
relationship have equal responsibility to making it work. Neither should leave
the slack for the other, and hide under the covering of cultural and religious
stereotypes, in enforcing double standards.
If it is not good for the
hen, it is not good for the cock. If the gander cannot eat coconut rice
outside, the goose should not eat gbegiri
outside too.
Do you understand???
Paz,
Meg.
P.s.: I still believe
literature should be made compulsory in Nigerian Secondary schools. The ability
to appreciate tongue-in-cheek sarcasm and irony is not one borne of magical powers.
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24 comments
Emm...
ReplyDeleteNne, you have done noble. I never expected a deviation from the trend.
Commitments are what keeps relationships alive. We stay loyal not because it always rosy but because even in the storms that come, we learn more.
This is not an excuse for infidelity though.
PS
I second your call for literature to be taught just as I also advocate that History be taught alongside too.
Jisike Nnem.
You always make for an interesting read.
Yes, nicely written.
DeleteThank you Chimezie...
DeleteLiterature compulsory? Then i would always fail a course.
ReplyDeleteLol!! That's the reason exactly it should be compulsory... so you don't fail at it.
DeleteHello big sis, please put up a write up about the consequences of parental influences in marriages. Now what do i mean, people should be allowed to marry who they love and not the state and capital of the person brought for introduction.
ReplyDeleteAnd based on cheating, you cant stop a woman whose true love is outside there. She will cheat and cheat again even if shes caught.
Hmmm... maybe we'll work together on that article.. yeah??
DeleteSmiles...
ReplyDeleteO I can't help but smile.
I always think men to be the super cheats but little did I know...
Nice one Darlyn..
Thank you Clare.
DeleteMost of the men fell for it..🤗😂
ReplyDeleteLol... and even some of us too!
DeleteYea... Love should be a mutual thing not leaving a party to suffer while the other enjoy all d benefits both inside and out.
ReplyDeleteYea... Love should be a mutual thing not leaving a party to suffer while the other enjoy all d benefits both inside and out.
ReplyDeleteExactly!
DeleteNice one dearie. Thanks for sharing.
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I dont have any problem with my woman cheating but me not sha catch you or have the faintest hint, if not, issallova. I cannot be sharing my ponmo with random people, HIV/STD is real.
ReplyDeleteAwesome! But make sure it applies to you too!! :)
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